The first time I stood up for someone was when I was on the elementary school playground. A friend of mine was being teased for a reason that I can no longer remember, but she was shutting down and the bullying was relentless. I couldn’t bear the thought of her going through this, so I spoke up for her when she could not speak up for her self. I don’t recall the words exchanged but I do recall getting rid of the bullies and helping my girl get her self together. I took a stand for her that day because I knew she was not worthy of that negativity and I knew that at that time, she couldn’t stand up for herself.
Since childhood, we have been told by our parents and teachers to stand up for those in need and to defend people who may not be able to defend them selves. The thing is, as we get older, life becomes a lot more complicated and often times those “bullies” are no longer just on the playground. Those “bullies” now show up as our egos, or that pesky voice that chimes in whenever we get excited about a new idea or plan; that voice that tries to talk us straight out of it. You know the one I’m talking about, the one that tells you that you aren’t good enough, smart enough or capable enough to have everything you desire in life.
Can you stand up to that bully?
As someone with experience as both a coach and a coaching client, I am now very aware of this voice and it’s sabotaging agenda. Even with this heightened awareness though, I have to stand up to my own inner bully on a regular basis. Also, I have a coach who stands for me during those times when my ego is on overload (ie: mercury retrograde, before a new venture, after a rough day, etc.) and I have trouble telling it to back off.
If your inner bully or ego is giving you a hard time, ask yourself if you would stand for that bully speaking to one of your friends like that. Would you be okay with a bully telling your friend that they are not good enough, smart enough or successful enough to follow their dreams? Of course you wouldn’t! So, practice standing for yourself by yelling right back at that bully or ego voice and by allowing your loving voice to take the stage. Easier said than done, I know. This is definitely a challenging process and is often time the catalyst for someone to seek out a coach for guidance, support and stand.
As a coach it is essential that you know what it means to stand for your clients and that you do it, always. When speaking to a client or prospect and their ego jumps in to fill their head with discouragement, it is your duty to stand for them. This means that you are completely honest about what you believe they are worthy of and you lovingly help them reframe any negative thought patterns or habits that are not serving their highest good. When you truly take a stand for your clients, you are coming from a place of love and service. You are advocating for their truest, most authentic desires. You are not allowing their ego voice to get in the way of them following through with their plans to create the life, business or love they have been dreaming of.
Think back to a time that you stood up for someone in your life. Are you taking just as powerful of a stand for yourself? Do you want to partner with someone who will be there to stand for you?